Anny Carter

1. Dating while travelling is like a late Erasmus. But more intense: the Cultural Experiment

When you are on an Erasmus program, you travel for a short time or move abroad as a single human being, you inevitably end up dating and meeting with people from other cultures, which is something we, travellers, take for granted, but which does not come as easy if we were sat on our arses back home. To share a bit of personal story here: I’ve had special encounters with an Estonian, a Brit, an American, a Dutch, a Spanish, a Kiwi, an Australian, an Italian and the list goes on…and on. I am not saying you should go out there and collect STDs, but simply be open to meet people from around the world which makes everything more…spicy and intriguing. And if for example, the fire doesn’t start, this could just be a very peculiar social experiment. I am actually considering to write an essay about the different dating styles of men from all over the world. Any single friends you want to hook up with me? Only joking (not!) but you know that dating people from the four corners of the world is like a full cultural, political and historical immersion that is not available online or any books.

2. Dating while travelling broadens your languages’ horizon: I speak Russian

Well….Not really. But one of the people I’m currently seeing speaks Russian and during our horizontal language exchange sessions, we share a few words in Italian and Russian. I am not sure I could ever repeat out loud the words I’m learning, but I never had so much fun learning a new language.
Jokes aside, meeting people from all over the world puts you in the position to learn a language faster than ever. I remember when I firstly moved to London with a broken English and my 3-year relationship with a Brit got me to get an 8 at the IELTS test. #yeahbragging

3. Dating while travelling is like going to the apples’ stall. The SEVEN billion people concept

Let’s pretend you are at the market to buy some apples: Honeycrisp, Red Delicious, Belle de Boskop, Discovery and Jonathan. So, I was saying, it’s like picking your favourite apples in an ideal shop where you can give a bite to all of them (nope, don’t be obscene, it’s a metaphor!) and move along to the next one if you don’t like it or finish it all if you want. At my apple stall, I’m gathering ideas of what are the essential elements that my future partner needs to have. Meeting so many people, from so many different background and cultures also helped me understand better who I am and what do I want from a future relationship. Entering the world of someone else, it’s always a self-discovery journey and I’m enjoying this one at the “market”.

4. If you are not ready for a long-term relationship, no-strings-attached flings are better on the road.

Of course, you could have them at your home, but for the reasons above they would all taste pretty much the same. Jumping from one flirt to the other while travelling instead, add romance and interest and even magic to it. Why? Well, most of the people you meet are going to leave or *you *are going to move on so nothing is permanent, everything goes fast and for this reason, you skip a few steps and live things at 100km/hour right from the start. If a commitment isn’t something you are after, then this fast approach can be the perfect speed dating game over a few days/weeks where you actually get to know the person, feel something and then move on to a new one.

5. Who said we are too old to date? Age is just a number while travelling.

I think I am one of the eldest backpackers in the world.

Ever.

But this isn’t always a disadvantage. On top of the senior discount on some hostels, I am in that age frame where I can easily pick above 30 and below thirty without feeling guilty or be arrested. If I felt grossly outnumbered by 18 years olds as I was travelling by bus in New Zealand, I started noticing the interest of boys only when I got to Fiji and Samoa. And yeah, let me tell you, millennials might be a bit needy and arrogant, they also bring a breath of fresh air to our 30-something lives.

So, ladies and gentlemen, I know that travelling alone can get quite lonely and tiring, but trust me: dating has totally changed my perspective on it as a whole. Since then I no longer spend nights alone sipping on half a dozen cocktails chatting to hitting on the poor barman. I no longer go alone to fancy restaurant to be stared at the entire time, I ask a date to take me there (yeah, that’s another reason why you should date while travelling, AKA: go to all the places that are normally socially forbidden to us, single people, like dinner in fancy restaurants, couple-tailored things: gondola alone anyone? One of the saddest things I have ever seen! Or even split costs on rides and things like that.

My Yuusk experience in Paris

Paris may be the city of love and one of the most romantic places in the world but today I’ve been having a little romance with the city itself. It turns out I LOVE Paris.

I spent the day wandering among some of the main attractions, stopping for café lattes and macaroons, shopping in the boutique stores and generally loving every corner of this gorgeous city.

After I arrived on Thursday afternoon and, rather than sharing my travel tips and reviews just yet, I thought I’d share the journal I’ve been scribbling in each time I stop for a rest.

Can’t believe I’d forgotten how much I love the Eurostar. It’s just so easy and comfortable.

Sometimes it isn’t until you experience something really good that you realise just how crap the alternative is. You know, like flying on a budget airline to Paris.

With the Eurostar there are no queues, no hassle, no long waits and no idiot holding up the security queue with their ginormous bottles of liquids.

After a breakfast of croissants, muesli and orange juice I sat back and watched the French countryside pass me by and I arrived in less than 2 hours.

First stop

My first stop in Paris was Citadines Tour Eiffel Tower and, as the name suggests, it was right by the Eiffel Tower. The location doesn’t get much better than this! This Citadines apart’hotel doesn’t look like much from the outside but once inside it’s the perfect hidden gem. You’re hit by the smell of freshly brewing coffee and the super friendly staff welcome you inside.

My room on the 6^th floor was spacious but cosy, nicely designed (I love that wallpaper), spotlessly clean, modern and with a handy kitchenette too.

I spent forever ogling out my window and admiring the view before remembering there was a whole city to explore!

That evening I went to a press event to launch the Citadines Moments 30 campaign and meet the other bloggers involved. There were about 20 members of the French press who were all interested in the competition and seeing what we get up to. Each Citadines property also has a big banner in reception explaining the competition and it’s so exciting that it’s being promoted to all of Citadines customers.

This is all for today. I will tell you more about this experience in the next post. Btw, Yuusk.com is a app for traveling. You can meet here great people, make friends and so on.